2. Go Easy On Me - comparison is the death of joy

Any Adele fans out there?

The tune popped into my head the moment I put pen to paper.

Her voice just has so many layers of emotion in each note. She has real talent. Mind you, I'm not referring to her singing. I admire the sheer Power she has over her own emotions. And further, to create empathy through radio waves around the globe.

In comparison to the struggle in understanding the various sympathies in the mundane world of motherhood, I don't know about you, but I want to crawl inside myself and mark my face with a capital F for Failure.

🛑 STOP RIGHT THERE! 🛑

Don't go down that road. The ugly world of, "Why can't I be as disciplined as that mom. Her kids seem so respectable." or, "She looks like she has it all together. Why can't I get anything right?" These insecurities that pop into our heads drain the life force out of your powerful soul. YOU BIRTHED TINY HUMANS. Never forget that you are capable of miracles. You are capable of greatness; maybe not every single day, but even the Almighty took a day off.

Wanting better for yourself is beautiful! The fact that you found yourself here on my blog is not a coincidence. The Great Spirit ushered you to a safe place to evolve your mind and expand your energy. I am SO grateful you are here.

Since I too am a mother on the same journey I know you have approximately five minutes to do ALL of the things. I don't want to take more time than I need.

Today's Guide Tip is :

Give Yourself Grace💫

I have been asked, "Where do you start? The idea is great but it's all so overwhelming!"

I answer, don't cut it at the roots. If you lead yourself to believe you have to understand and apply everything on day one you're missing the point of Slow Living.

This is one of those ~enjoy the journey~ kind of deals. You should be excited about the destination too, but the seasons are ever-changing. Life doesn't pause for you to catch up. Think of motherhood like a relay race. We are developing coping skills in ourselves so that we can pass these healthy ideas onto our kids, and they onto theirs.

The skills I want to develop and practice every day are:

Patience

Empathy

Respect

Appreciation and

Love

If i missed something drop it in the comments. What do you want to practice?

With these practices in mind, that doesn't mean we don't leave space for:

Anger

Frustration

Disappointment

Pain and

Hurt

Know that these negative feelings are equally weighted to the former. Though we will be exploring what that means at a later date, know now, that your attitude toward these big feelings is the magic sauce needed to begin digesting them.

If you were raised in a home where you adapted to suppress the negative feelings, it's a result of your parents' misunderstandings of how to digest them. Lets break that generational cycle and expose the "bad" feelings with unbiased rationality.

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